Do you need a Friend?

One thing that we all have in common is that we want friends.  Our desire to have friends is intense.  We want friends because we want people to like us.  Oftentimes, we want people’s approval that we are OK and having friends is a way to quantify that feeling.  Social conditioning dictates that if we are popular, then we are good.  Therefore, we get caught up in how many FB friends, or followers we have on Instagram, Twitter, or Youtube.  And because of the social media blitz, we use these sites as tools to validate ourselves as likeable and accepted.

Think about this…why is it that we constantly like the people who don’t like us?  How many times have you wondered why a person doesn’t like you?  Even though, you have absolutely no problem with them.  This happens a lot.  It is social conditioning.  And to break the cycle, you have to look deep within yourself to continue to be you regardless of how people feel about you.

I believe that we each need a Best Friend.  But who’s qualified to be yours?  Here’s the answer:  You are!  That’s right!  Be your own Best Friend.  We know that life is dynamic.  Some days you are up; some days you are down.  The key though is to be strong enough and willing to love yourself enough to do what you were put on this earth to do, regardless of the people you meet in life.  Here are your Best Friend responsibilities to yourself.

  1. Have a VISION of what you want to do with your life.
  2. Know your PURPOSE for living.
  3. Take a journey to find out what FULFILLS you.
  5. ENCOURAGE yourself.
  6. Know what you absolutely LOVE about yourself.
  7. RESPECT yourself enough not to put yourself down.
  8. NEVER give your power (individuality) to another person’s control.
  9. Realize that EVERYONE will have an opinion of you.
  10. PROTECT your SELF-WORTH from others.

Because of so much noise in the world, these principles will not come easy.  It will take you some time to practice them enough to internalize them.  But once you do, you will become a Inspired Version of yourself and will be well on your way to having true friends.  Good Luck!

Dwayne’s Coaching Point:   There is no need to look for others to love and appreciate you, when you don’t spend time loving and appreciating yourself!

~Be Inspired and Live You!

-Coach Dwayne L.

Coach Dwayne L. is a Certified Life Coach. Feel free to Follow, Like, Comment, or email him at For more motivation please visit


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